Death is the last act of life that occurs in an instant in time, yet it opens to eternity. Hence the moment and the eternal are combined at once in death. Death is a time when our perceptions of life are focused upon what is important–life, love–so death helps bring life into perspective. Death is closely associated with love and life because of the perspective it brings. Death, like love, is eternal. Without death, without confronting our end, we would have less perspective on the importance of life. Confronting death makes one aware of the end of corporeal existence and all that is connected with it. Health may mean happiness in our day-to-day affairs on earth, but ill health, like death, reminds us of our mortality and forces the mind to awareness.
Death is the great leveler. It is a reminder of the silliness of reputation and status. Death is a time when the great truths are discovered because of our heightened awareness. Strange that mortality can help us discover what is immortal. As the act of love, the experience of the body, leads us to a sense of unity with another, of one rather than two, which is the essence of that universal phenomenon, love, so death is an explosive experience, a bodily occurrence that is a singular act but leads to a perception of life, life that transcends just us, life as a force that transcends the ages. Death, it seems, at the moment life ends, is the time of the greatest apprehension of what life is. A momentary awareness of truth occurs then is gone. Before death, when perceiving or expecting it, awareness grows, and it would seem insights into the act of death.
Death is bitter and painful, the last bodily suffering, the last consciously experienced molding of the clay by God. Death is fearful, it is inevitable. And it is uncertain: when, how, why, what, and what happens after, if there is an after. What if there is nonexistence? Is it perhaps narcissistic to assume that a person will exist after death? But then again, what about love? Nonexistence means the end of love. It means that the quest for unity is over, that unity is never attained, unless it is unity with the universe by turning back to dust. But love? to end? Love is knowledge, to end? There must be a truth in human existence, something that goes beyond time and place, which is love. Love is the basis for life. How can the creation of another human be merely material and physical? The fact that we love, which is transcendent, means that there is love both in life and death.
Love is a thirst to end loneliness, to be united with another person. Nonexistence is loneliness, it is dark, cold loneliness. One won’t know, but it is still loneliness, or it is perceived as such. Nonexistence is the exact opposite of life, because life is the thirsting and the search for unity, and love is the basis for unity.
Nonexistence is dissolution and dismemberment, it is sinking back into nothingness, dissolving into dust, scattering into chaos. Existence, rather, is the constant movement forward, it is completedness, wholeness, unity.
Love, faith, hope: all are connected. God’s love is something we feel. Love is unity, God is love, God loves us, life will not end with death, for God, the source of unity, will draw us to Him. This is felt not known. This feeling of love is the basis for faith and hope.
Life is a journey between two poles of unknowns, yet what connects these poles, what directs life, is God—or Love. God is inscrutable, but where do we come from? Who creates us? God, and why? God loves, so he creates, He extends outward, He is the unity from which the parts come and to which they will go. Death is the return, not the end. Death is the call from God to the completion of the journey. It is a call of Love, to return to the ultimate Lover. Hence, Love: what about faith and hope? Like love, how one lives his life and what he believes depends upon how he feels. With faith and hope we have a trust in the future, a trust based upon our feelings of love and God’s promise of Love. We hope for something to be fulfilled in the future, something we expect to happen, but since it is of the future, it is not completely certain. Yet the hope is rested upon God’s love, and upon our own awareness too. If I didn’t feel love as the principle of existence I would not be able to have hope in unity with the ultimate unity. Faith is faith in God’s promise but also faith in oneself and what one feels to be true. Love is love of God but also confidence in the feeling of Love one has, and an awareness that comes from oneself of what love is, an introspective feeling. This awareness of knowledge of oneself is love of oneself.
Why fear death then if death is fulfillment? For Love is the whole key to human existence, to all the other universals in peace, harmony, hope, to conquering fear and conquering death.
Love is universal, but our modern age has corrupted it.
Our existence is predicated upon our lives—our bodies, our earthly experiences, our families and friends, our earthly loves. It is all we know, it is the focus even of our love, as well as our hope and faith. But death dissolves this anchor of existence. Even if we don’t fear nonexistence, we face the end of all we know to be existence. We have faith and hope in a further existence, but we cannot be certain of this further existence. So even if there is no fear of nonexistence, there is the apprehension of having all one knows become what one doesn’t know–hence the need for faith and hope. But here love is important too, for if God is love and we are called to this unity, then we know of love too, and perhaps can sense or feel that this love isn’t transient. Here love is a guide, the faint glimmer in our ignorance, to help us in death.
If death is the door of love to God then why not experience it? If it is a time of love and pathos with family, where a certain beauty exists, which is love, then why not experience it?
Further, the fear of death is usually tied to images of real experiences of seeing others die, or images of the imagination thinking of oneself dying. But it can be countered by the images of Love, based on the experiences of love in life as well as the imaginary future possibilities of love in death.
The Apostle John knew about all that I write above, as he expressed in his Gospel, and in his three Letters, especially the first of which, in which he declared emphatically:
1. God is Love.
2. There is no fear in Love, because perfect love casts out fear.
3. There is no fear in death, because death is the reunification with Love itself.
